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Announcing TancieTrail.com

News Flash

Tancie Trail, the author and creator of Bloomcore, is currently hanging out full time over at TancieTrail.com.

You’ll find a lot of value in the blog over at the new site, and here are a few recent posts to whet your appetite…

Your 2011: Tell Me Your One Thing… VIDEO
Self Responsibility
Wealth Consciousness Call
Black Swan: S upressing Our Dark Side
Ladies: Take A Positive Body-Image Break… VIDEO

Please head over, check her out, see what’s new + RSS subscribe to that blog to get rich content HOT off her keyboard.

ALSO, since Tancie is committed to not only inspiring you but to supporting you to implement the work that will get you to the next level, when you join her mailing list there you will receive three ‘mini’ Self Responsibility workshops which are foundational for your personal work. These workshops are designed in multi-media formats, using audio, video, worksheets to download and step-by-step How-To instruction so they’re super quick, easy and fun to complete.

A note from Tancie…

” Hello everyone, I really appreciate your support and look forward to sharing my new venture with you!
Here’s a snapshot of the new site below ↓ Thanks for stopping by and I’ll see you over at TancieTrail.com! “ _ Tancie

Evolve In Spirit

A girlfriend of mine posted a comment on my facebook wall yesterday that struck a cord in me, so I will take action and share my philosophy on it while it is still fresh…

She wrote:

” the harder someone tries to destroy me, the harder I will pray for their salvation ”

I have learned through my studies recently that underneath every behavior is a positive intention. Yes, Every Behavior. Even behaviors that seem ‘destructive’.

And I will say that in the past I can totally relate to being so consumed with the desire to see someone who I am in conflict with go away, forever, that I too have had destructive thoughts toward them and myself.

…Conflict seems so ‘uncivilized and base’ that we often can’t accept it. It’s like a secret deep part of us [maybe our spirit] knows better, and knows that the person we are in conflict with knows better too, and the fact that we are even having conflict at all is such a bummer [to our spirit] that the animal or base reaction within each of us is to destroy the situation and everyone involved…

Armed with the new knowledge that underneath every behavior is a positive intention, I got curious about my own occasional impatience and desire to “destroy” [as she says] others, and because I looked, I was given the gift of becoming aware of what was underneath for me.

The message I got was that I wanted to ‘evolve’ them.

Continue reading Evolve in Spirit

Doesn't Hurt To Ask

Last night I went to see a broadway musical with a friend. He had been given a couple of complimentary tickets from the production, so our seats were going to be a surprise. Once in the theatre we were directed to the stairs, and finally all the way up to the 3rd to last back row in the balcony of the theatre! Haha…

I was content, as the invitation came to me last minute, so I was just happy to be there. My friend was happy too, and he wanted to move. ” I think I’ll call my connection and request better seats ” he said. He hopped up with his cell phone in hand and returned about 5 minutes later with two new tickets for the main floor, center, 10 rows from stage. Basically, the best seats in the house! Haha… As we were hurrying down to our new spots he looked over his shoulder and said, ” Hey, guess it doesn’t hurt to ask! “

This morning as I reflected on the evening I was reminded how important it is to ASK. Asking for what you want is the act of considering yourself first, above all else, in a ecological way. My guy friend did not hesitate, he quickly considered his needs and his desires above all else. With no hesitation he asked, and he got what he wanted. Harmless!

I wondered… if I had been with a girlfriend, how the evening would have been different.

I have a feeling that a girlfriend would have considered the person who gave her the tickets above herself, not wanting to seem ungrateful or bother them by asking for more. We’ve all reached frustration through sacrificing what we need or want in hopes that the partner|job|friend|family in our lives will give us what we need and want AFTER we’ve taken care of them.

Sound familiar? Continue reading Doesn’t Hurt To Ask

Self Hate vs Self Love

The seesaw of light and dark in my being has never been so pronounced. Solitude. For the past two months I have chosen solitude and have spent 90% of my time held up in my beach townhouse next to the Pacific ocean. Solitude for good reason. It occurred to me at the end of December, ever so deeply, that the people, places and things that were in my life were not aligned with my true self, my core values, or my deepest desires.

They had been attracted to me through a broken inner pipeline – by my lesser me. Filling my days, and my precious time, yet not filling me. This is not the fault of anyone around me, nothing is wrong with any person, place or thing. What was wrong, I realized, was my relationship with me.

The inspiration for this solitude came when I looked at myself in the locker room mirror and saw a scrawny, bruised, pale, frizzy haired, stressed out woman with dark circles for eyes. As I saw my reflection three words were effortlessly clear, ” I… hate… myself “. I gasped. How did this happen. When did it happen! Who did this to me?! This admission was horrible and a relief all at the same time. I had become a victim to the vortex of self hatred in it’s most sick sense.

I reached out to Niurka, a teacher of mine, writing “What is the purpose of self hatred?” To sum her up – it has no purpose or meaning aside from the purpose and meaning you assign to it. It is the over identification with the ego + mental chatter and an indication that one has lost sight of the grandeur and magnificence of who they truly are. [paraphrasing]

BINGO. Her masterful words rang so true.

Fact: About 8 months ago I met with an incredible astrologer who charted my birthday. To make a long story short, I naturally have a tendency to pick things apart. Way apart. [uh... can you relate?] So when I am not busy working on complicated problems at my job, that energy turns inward and is ruthless. What I realized from my reading that day was how important it is for me to channel this intensity into the positive, the light, and the love. Realizing is one thing. Making this happen is an entirely different plate of spaghetti.

The Buddha said: “You can search the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than yourself. This person is not to be found anywhere.” What an incredible statement that is!

This solitude seesaw that I am riding now has been a hell of a teacher that’s for sure. Oh what a ride. Because of the choice to remove everyone and everything that could be ‘to blame’, I am forced to take full responsibility for my entire self and life, right here, right now. This extreme choice to isolate in a city of millions is working for me.

The light and the dark. The sun and the shadow. The self hate and the self love. It’s all in there and daily it is clear to me now that which one we choose to see effects our entire lives. It determines the life that we actually get to live.

Up until now I thought that my suffering, pain and limitations were special. That sure, everyone had the traditional ‘stuff of life’ to overcome, and that because of my unique past I had that and also a ‘special chunk’ of stuff that was more difficult than everyone else’s. It’s the idea that my pain and suffering is more special than yours and therefore I will protect it and nurture it. Covet it even. What a horribly backward thing to do! Thanks ego, but no thanks. I choose spirit and freedom.

To keep ourselves in check I am discovering how important it is for us to regularly ask “how’s that workin out for ya”? You can guess what my response was to coveting my ‘funk. It was not.

Choosing to believe that our pain is special and worthy of our attention does one thing only – creates more of it. No matter how horrific or traumatic your past has been – leave it there. Look back but don’t stare. Choose the light. Choose the love. If doing so feels like a sham in the beginning, with practice it will become the default. Then and only then will you be relating to yourself in a healthy progressive sustainable way.

Don’t worry about me – there is plenty that I love about who I am – the point of digging deeper is to live more authentically – more awake – and super clean from the inside out. We all have stuff stuck in us that is preventing our best life, so when things outside are not looking so hot – I personally feel it is vital for me to dig deeper – so that’s what I do. Life has taught me that even when I try to settle for less [and believe me I do] something inside me or inside the universe will not allow it.

Quite frankly, I am grateful for this.

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In what areas of your life do you keep trying to settle for less, while having a sneaking suspicion that you could do better. Way better. Pull these out and take a look – this will bring authentic change to your life that only you can deliver.

Choosing the positive | the light | the love is the basis for creating a life that is in alignment with your true self, your core values and your deepest desires. Can you relate? Do me a favor and tell me so below ↓ – I could use the company!

Namaste’